Wednesday, Feb. 14
Kenneth Edward Jones, 54, of Coos Bay, celebration of life will be held at 4 p.m., at Coos Bay Chapel, 685 Anderson Ave. in Coos Bay. Arrangements are under the care of Coos Bay Chapel, 541-267-3131.
Ron F. Potts, 61 of Coos Bay, passed away Feb. 9, 2018 at Coos Bay. Services are pending under the direction of Nelson’s Bay Area Mortuary, Coos Bay, 541-267-4216.
Jean Bryan, 95, of Coquille, died Feb. 11, 2018 in Coos Bay. Arrangements are pending with Amling/Schroeder Funeral Service - Coquille Chapel, 541-396-3846.
Velma “Marie” M. Snyder, 90, of Lakeside, passed away Feb. 10, 2018 in Coos Bay. Arrangements are under the care of North Bend Chapel, 541-756-0440.
Ginger Ann McIntee, 65, of Myrtle Point, died Feb. 11, 2018 in Coquille. Arrangements are pending with Amling/Schroeder-Myrtle Point Chapel 541-572-2524.
A Mass of Christian burial for Thomas H. Kelly, 91, of Coos Bay, formerly Ellendale, N.D., was held at 10 a.m., Friday, Feb. 9, at St. Helena’s Catholic Church in Ellendale, N.D., with Father Jason Asselin celebrant. Visitation will be one hour prior to the service at the church. Burial will be at St. Helena’s Catholic Cemetery. Thomas died Tuesday, Jan. 30, 2018 in Eugene.
Thomas Harold Kelly was born April 2, 1926 in LaMoure, N.D., to Thomas and Margaret Kelly. He attended school in the Forbes, N.D., area and upon completion began an apprenticeship in the auto service industry and served primarily as a General Motors automotive technician for 50 years. Thomas married Gladys Weber Sept. 4, 1954, in St. Helena’s Church, in Ellendale, N.D., where they made their home until moving in 1960 to Coos Bay, where he lived until his death.
Upon his retirement in 1988, Thomas enjoyed visiting and attending his grandchildren’s games and activities. He was devoted to his family and the Roman Catholic faith all his life and was a member of Holy Redeemer Catholic Church in North Bend, until the time of his death. Thomas served as a mentor for many in the auto service industry.
Grateful for having shared Thomas’ life are his wife, Gladys Kelly of Coos Bay; daughters, Cynthia and Ken Heupel of Edmond, Okla., and Charlotte and Gordon Porter of Creswell; grandchildren, Josh and Dawn Heupel of Orlando, Fla., Andrea and Dan Boren of Edmond, Okla., John and Amanda Andersson of Eugene, Jacob and Terra Parten of Oklahoma City, Okla., Zachary and Sara Parten of Mobile, Ala., and Caitlin Parten of Indianapolis, Ind; great-grandchildren, Hannah and Jace Heupel, Janna and Hunter Boren, Kaden, Peyton and Obadiah Andersson, Samuel Parten, Kahlan and Arya Parten; many nieces and nephews; and sisters, Bernice Carlson of Lisbon, N.D., Donna Mae Rymer of Sioux Falls, S.D., and Janice Wilson of Yakima, Wash.
His daughter, Juliet Parten; grandson, Aron Andersson; his parents; brother, Lawrence Kelly; sisters, Margaret Fleming and Beatrice Hermansen preceded him in death.
Spitzer-Miller Funeral Home, 1111 South Main Street, Aberdeen, N.D. is in charge of arrangements, www.spitzerfuneralhome.com.
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A memorial service will be held for Kerry Quilhaugh at 2 p.m., Saturday, Feb. 24, at the Powers Church of God, in Powers. He was born July 15, 1947 to Powers residents Deadrick Earl Quilhaugh and Edith May (Hayes) Quilhaugh. On his passing, at his home in Glide, Jan. 28, 2018, he had been married for 50 years to the love of his life, Gloria Jean Kalb Quilhaugh.
Kerry and Gloria are the proud parents of Jennifer Anderson and Vicky Webber. Jennifer is joined in mourning by her husband, Daryn Anderson; and daughters, Jordan Anderson and Kelsey Anderson of Glide. Vicky is joined by her husband, Damian Webber; daughter, Abigail Webber; and sons, Jacob Webber and Jonah Webber of Roseburg. Kerry has two surviving siblings; sister, Sandra Anderson and Gene Quilhaugh both from Naselle, Wash.
Kerry graduated from Powers High School in 1965 and attended Southwestern Oregon Community College, in Coos Bay, and Southern Oregon College, in Ashland, graduating from SOC in 1971 with a Bachelor of Science in education. Mr. Quilhaugh was a social studies teacher and athletic coach at Powers High School from 1972-1984 and Douglas High School from 1984-2000 in Winston.
Coach Quilhaugh was involved with the football and basketball programs at Powers High School, and he often enjoyed working out with his students in the weight room. He coached eight-man football, and junior high, junior varsity, and varsity basketball programs, while a teacher at PHS. His seven years as the Cruisers’ varsity boys coach resulted in a very admired 121 win-50 loss record and four state tournament appearances with tournament placings of sixth, fourth, third, and first, the 1981 state title. At Douglas High School, Coach Quilhaugh was a member of the football and basketball coaching staffs. He was, in different season's, the boys and girls head coach for basketball, and he coached is daughters, Jennifer and Vicky.
As a true son of Powers, Kerry worked in a variety of timber related jobs, and loved to hunt and fish. His other interests, during his lifetime, included the Boy Scouts, playing chess, tying fishing flies, woodworking, playing basketball, training for and running multiple marathons, owning several spoiled dogs, collecting historically themed art prints, dabbling at the guitar and banjo, and listening to country music and bluegrass music, both in his truck, or at festivals with his wife, Gloria. He and Gloria were able to do some extensive travel in their retirement years.
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DEAR ABBY: I'm not attracted to my husband. I love him and don't want to live without him, but I do not want to be physically intimate with him. I know it is unfair to him, and I have tried everything from antidepressants to meditation to diet, but nothing works.
I used to have a high libido, but I haven't wanted to have sex with him in years. We do it maybe two or three times a month because I force myself to, but it is unpleasant for me. He doesn't want to guilt me into sex and hates that I force myself, but he has a very high libido.
We are in our mid-20s and I know this is killing him -- and us. I am attracted to some (but very few) others -- just not to him. I have always been more emotionally attracted to women than men, but I don't think that is it. I need help before our marriage starts to crumble. -- AVOIDING IT IN SOUTH CAROLINA
DEAR AVOIDING IT: I can't wave a magic wand and make you more physically attracted to your husband. I can suggest that the most sensitive sexual organ in a woman's body resides between her ears.
However, I am not qualified to diagnose whether your problem may be of a physical nature. That's why I'm advising you to ask your doctor to perform a thorough physical examination. If he or she finds nothing amiss, ask the doctor -- or your health insurance company -- to refer you to a licensed mental health professional who can help you figure out what's going on.
DEAR ABBY: My husband and I moved to a new town last year and are working on settling in and making friends. Our way has been to accept every invitation offered in hopes of building relationships in this small community.
We recently had dinner at the home of a neighbor couple who were very welcoming, but we quickly realized the four of us have absolutely nothing in common. Making conversation through the meal and coffee taxed all of our small-talk skills, and there were many painful silences. Any foray into current events, family life -- even gardening -- revealed stark differences that brought conversation to a screeching halt. We made an excuse to go home early and sent a thank-you note the next day.
Usually, I think a dinner invitation requires a reciprocal invitation in the future. In this case, I'm wondering if it would be better to just let it go. Would it be rude to not reciprocate, or must I suck it up? If we must have them over, how do I ensure the second dinner goes better than the first? We hope to live here for a long time. -- DIFFERENT IN THE WEST
DEAR DIFFERENT: Do the right thing and invite the couple for dinner. It does not have to be in your home -- a nice restaurant would do. If the evening was as uncomfortable as you have described, they may not accept your invitation. But if they do, a way to make conversation flow more easily might be to include another couple.
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.