At her request, no public services will be held for JoAnne Bayes Trendell, 86, of Coos Bay. Private cremation rites were held at Ocean View Memory Gardens in Coos Bay. A private inurnment will be held at the Pioneer Cemetery in Aurora.
JoAnne was born March 21, 1931 in Tulsa, Oklahoma, the daughter of John and Maurine Bayes. She passed away peacefully in her sleep in Coos Bay New Year’s Day.
JoAnne grew up in Springfield, Missouri and graduated from Springfield High School in 1948. She moved to Oregon with her first husband, Rusty Snyder. They had three children, Curt, Lisa and Kevin. They divorced in 1959. She was a teller at U.S. Bank in downtown Coos Bay and also worked nights sewing drapes for The Hub. In 1962, she married Oliver “Bud” Trendell, and he adopted her three children. In 1963, they had a son, Bryan.
JoAnne spent many years on various school and church committees, as well as leading 4-H clubs and being a Cub Scout den mother. She was an expert seamstress, knitter, and calligrapher. She worked 22 years in the Coos Bay School District, the majority of which was in the Milner Crest Library, matching kids with books. She was an avid Pirate fan and enjoyed going to games with Bud. JoAnne loved her family, books, traveling, music and collecting.
The family wishes to thank Dr. McAndrew and his staff, as well as, Paul and Sherry Bright and the staff at Almost Home for their great care of our mom. The family suggests memorial contributions to Coos Bay Community School Foundation, PO Box 1372, Coos Bay, Oregon 97420.
JoAnne is survived by her children, Curt Trendell and Rose of Coquille, Lisa Trendell Freauff and Jeff of Silverton, Kevin Trendell and LuAnn of Aloha, and Bryan Trendell and Jean of Coos Bay; sister, Linda Roth of Portland; brother, Jack Bayes of Monterey, Calif.; seven grandchildren, Brad, William, Elyse, Emma, Rylee, Anna and Sydney; and three great-grandchildren, Aiden, Jason, and Jake.
She was preceded in death by her parents; husband, and two grandchildren.
Arrangements are under the care of Coos Bay Chapel, 541-267-3131.
Friends and family are encouraged to sign the online guestbook at www.coosbayareafunerals.com and www.theworldlink.com.
DEAR ABBY: I'm a 16-year-old girl, and I'm pretty sure I'm the most insecure thing on the planet. I always feel self-conscious. Although I guess it's normal for kids my age to feel like this, it's at a whole different level for me.
I feel like everyone, including my closest friends, don't like me or care about me as much as I care for them. I try to distance myself from people so I won't seem annoying or clingy, but that has left me socially deprived.
I don't have a best friend either. I have multiple "kind of" friends. I'm scared to get close to anyone, and too shy to make new friends. And yes, I know, having friends isn't the most important thing in the world, but it's still pretty important because you need to have people there for you, to trust and to have fun and make memories with.
I always feel like a burden to everyone and like everyone who is nice to me is only doing it out of pity. This year I wasn't invited to even one Sweet 16 party because I have distanced myself from everyone. No one, except for two kids, talks to me at school, and when the teacher asks the class to partner up, I'm usually left alone.
A lot of this "no one likes you, everyone hates you" paranoia comes from my parents, because when I was younger, they said it to me repeatedly. I only have a few internet friends. They're the only best friends I have, but unlike me, they have lives outside of the internet. I'm the loser. Please help. -- COMPLETELY WORTHLESS
DEAR COMPLETELY WORTHLESS: Please do not compare your life with the lives of the people you know from the internet because the information can be misleading. In an online world, everything seems rosy because people are less likely to post about their disappointments.
In the real world, let me point out that parents are supposed to support and encourage their children, not belittle and denigrate them. Because you need more mentoring than I can offer in a letter or a column, I hope you will discuss your issues with a counselor at school who may be able to help you receive professional counseling to overcome the verbal abuse you have experienced at home. Please write me again and let me know how you are doing because I care.
DEAR ABBY: What's a polite way to respond to friends who ask, "Are you having a baby shower?" when no one has offered to throw me one?
My husband and I are expecting our first child, and we are thrilled. My family is unable to host a baby shower (which I understand would be a breach of etiquette anyway) and my husband has no family.
I'm not particularly wedded to the idea of having a shower, since my husband and I are well established and I don't really like being the center of attention. Still, if someone offered, I would graciously accept. I feel awkward when I am asked this question because I don't want to seem entitled or expectant or like I'm feeling sorry for myself. Do you have any way to say, "No one has offered, but I'll let you know if they do"? -- EXPECTANT MOM IN CALIFORNIA
DEAR EXPECTANT MOM: Honesty is the best policy. Your answer to that question is perfectly acceptable. It's the truth, and it may cause some of your friends to step up to bat.
Lyla Patricia Maine was the eighth of nine children born to, Fred Elroy Maine and Frances Helen Whitaker. She was born Nov. 16, 1930 in Marshfield. As a child she lived in Coos Bay and Empire. She was a member of the Coos Bay Church of Christ, where her parents attended from a very young age.
Lyla attended Marshfield High School, and had a job at Dairy Queen in Empire. As she left work she was met by her dog, Laddie, to accompany her home each day. Upon graduating from MHS, she enrolled in San Jose Bible College. After one year or so, she transferred to the Midwestern School of Evangelism in Ottuma, Iowa. During this time she met her future husband, James "Jim" Fagerskog, while attending a preaching rally in 1953 at Troutdale. They were married Aug. 1, 1955.
In 1973 the family moved to Rutland, Vt., where Jim served at the Dorr Dr. Church of Christ School of Ministry. At that time Lyla became an elementary teacher at the Dorr Dr. Christian School.
In the 1980s, the Fagerskogs moved to Los Angeles, Calif., to work in the bi-lingual ministry. Lyla continued her career as an elementary school teacher at several private Christian schools in Southern California until 1995, when she retired.
Lyla traveled with her husband, Jim, on several Spanish mission journeys to El Salvador, Puerto Rico, and Mexico. They also traveled for pleasure all across the United States and to various countries including Canada, Israel, Greece, Italy, England, Norway, and Sweden.
Jim and Lyla were married for 61 years and had four children. The couple was also blessed with seven grandchildren and three great-granchildren.
She was preceded in death by her parents, Fred Elroy Maine and Frances Maine White; stepfather, Thomas White; four brothers, Hugh, Ken, Keith, and Don Maine; three sisters, Dorothy Probst, Maxine Erwin, and Phyllis Lewis.
Lyla is survived by her husband of 61 years, Jim Fagerskog; two sisters-in-law, Joyce Brewer and Georgia Maine of Fresno, Calif.; sister, Virginia Maine of Coos Bay; and many cousins, nieces, and nephews.
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A memorial services will be held for Glenda Jean Marchant, 86, of Coos Bay, at 11 a.m., Saturday, Jan. 20, at Christ Lutheran Church, 1835 N. 15th St., Coos Bay. Glenda passed away Jan. 7 at her home from cancer.
She was a vibrant, compassionate, strong women who brought joy and love to all she met. Born in Oklahoma, moving often during her childhood she finally ended up in Oregon. She graduated valedictorian from Illinois Valley High School and married her high school sweetheart, Myron Marchant, in 1950. Together they raised two children. They stayed 10 years in Cave Junction moving to Grants Pass for the next 37 and spending the last 20 in Coos Bay.
Glenda worked a wide variety of jobs spending the most time as a master parachute rigger for the U.S. Forrest Service Smoke Jumpers. Glenda was an active member of Christ Lutheran Church and LWMS. She volunteered at Bay Area Hospital in the gift shop and blood pressure station. Glenda was the original queen mother of the Red Hat Society Scarlet Mermaids and member of the Vibrantly Flawed Divas.
She is survived by the love of her life, husband of 67 years, Myron Marchant; daughter, Cynthia Schultz and son-in-law, Richard Schultz; grandchildren, Rick Schultz, and Tracey and Brian Lorts; great-grandson, Owen Daniel Lorts; several very special nieces and nephews; and numerous close friends and extended family.
She was preceded in death by her son, Daniel Marchant.
Sincere appreciation for all who prayed, visited, called and sent flowers and cards.
Special thanks to our South Coast Hospice Team.
In lieu of flowers please make memorial contributions to South Coast Hospice, 1620 Thompson Road, Coos Bay.
Cremation rites were held at Ocean View Memory Gardens Crematory, in Coos Bay, under the direction of Myrtle Grove Funeral Service-Bay Area, 541-269-2851.
Friends and family are encouraged to sign the online guestbook at www.coosbayareafunerals.com.
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Monday, Jan. 15
Candelario “Junior” Rincon-Hamm, funeral service 1 p.m., Mon., Jan. 15 Coos Bay Chapel, 685 Anderson Ave., in Coos Bay.
Saturday, Jan. 20
Oris “Ed” Bushnell, private family memorial service 11 a.m., North Bend Chapel, 2014 McPherson Ave.
Saturday, Feb. 10
Elyse Roberts, celebration of life 2 p.m., North Bend Chapel, 2014 McPherson Ave.
Roger W. Booth- 53, of North Bend, passed away Jan. 11, 2018 in North Bend. Arrangements are under the care of North Bend Chapel, 541-756-0440.
Frances “Francie” Lee Abel- 69, of Coos Bay passed away Jan. 9, 2018 in Keauhou, Hawaii.
Anna Crosby- 82, of Myrtle Point, died Jan. 11in Coquille. Arrangements are pending with Amling/Schroeder Funeral Service - Myrtle Point Chapel, 541-572-2524.